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Women at Furry Conventions
Raider:
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--- Quote from: EchoesAbove on 25.11.2013, 18:57:07 ---IF you get stalked by a guy, find another woman, talk to her, and ask her for help. Alternatively, you have friends.
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With so many colorspecies walking around, writing down the name might prevent a mixup and the wrong person being accused.
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I suggest getting the badge number, too. There are some pretty similar names out there.
yagfox:
Are there any security statistics for numbers of past reported incidents available?
Cheetah:
That's confidential information, but I can say that the number is very, very, very low. In the context of this discussion I might add though, that while all the "you should report unwanted attention to security" advice is well meant, when there is the need to call security the damage has already been done. Depending on your self-confidence, one bad apple is all it may need to seriously ruin your day - or even the con.
What worries me as the chairman is not only the actual situation, but also the psychology - part of the reason why furry cons are unpopular with women also seem to be a self-fulfilling cognitive bias. If you come expecting to be treated in a special way, you can easily end up actually waiting for it, and things that would not have registered with you under normal conditions become suddenly a lot more significant - just because of the way you've expecting them to happen.
Judging from my own experience and what security reports to me at the con, and also the reactions here in the forum, I think EF is a very safe place, regardless of sex, gender or orientation. So I don't think there is much we can do to improve the experience in that regard. However how do we get rid of that psychological effect that makes women FEEL insecure without trying to force our demographics?
EchoesAbove:
*late reply*
I've only had a stalker at a smaller con (not EF), but brought it up here because it propably happened at EF too.
Also, if someone's following you, how on earth are you supposed to get the name and badge number? Tbh, I'd have better things to do then walk up to him and look at that person's badge.
What I DID have is meeting someone, who I talked to once during the EF. I returned home to a Skype add... and a lot of pictures of my butt while in Suit. I too have been asked if it's possible to do a "private shooting" of said butt at the next EF. Was easily solved by a NO though.
Jake R:
--- Quote from: Zefiro on 28.11.2013, 17:14:41 ---
--- Quote from: Jake R on 28.11.2013, 15:46:41 ---And for the love of all that is holy, learn to pick up signs of when to get the hell out of there, and act on them.
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That's very easy to say. I'm not convinced it's that easy to act on, though.
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I agree with you there, and I'll readily admit I'm far from great at it myself. But I'm convinced I'm better at it now than I was some years ago, and my aim is to be better at it still in a few years.
All I ask from people is for them to look at themselves, and try to make sure they aren't creeping people out. Reading about negative experiences of women (both furry and non-furry), especially online and at conventions, is indeed a great start. Tip: if you can't see the problem, you're probably a part of it.
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